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Man Proposes To Girlfriend In McDonald's And She Is Not Lovin' It

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A man proposed to his girlfriend in McDonald's this week, but didn't quite get the reaction he was expecting.

Michael Joseph decided it was time to pop the question after spending two years in a relationship with his girlfriend, Ann.

He filmed the big moment via a hidden camera in his car, but Ann was less then impressed with his choice of venue.

"I met my girlfriend two years ago in LA. I've never been good at planning in advance which is why we wound up ending our first date at this exact McDonalds," Michael says in the video's description on YouTube.

"She joked for months about how 10 years down the road I would probably propose to her in a chicken nugget box so I thought she would love when I surprised her this way.

"She didn't love it like the way I thought she would....."

We won't spoil the video by telling you how Ann reacts, but put it this way, she and Michael have agreed to "wait longer until it's time to get engaged".

Ouch.

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UbbLE Risk Calculator Can Predict If You'll Die Within Five Years

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Scientists say they have created an online test which can predict the likelihood of an individual dying within the next five years.

The UbbLE Risk Calculator asks respondents aged between 40-70 a series of questions about their background, lifestyle and health, including walking speed, number of cars owned and marital status.

Claiming an 80% accuracy rate, it is based on research into the lifestyle and health measurements of nearly half a million people (a large scale project named UK Biobank) and was publicised in the 3 June edition of medical journal The Lancet.

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Is death coming for you in the next five years?>

In comments reported by Sky News, Dr Erik Ingelsson, who was involved in the study, said: "The fact that the score can be measured online in a brief questionnaire, without any need for lab tests or physical examination, is an exciting development.

"Of course, the score has a degree of uncertainty and shouldn't be seen as a deterministic prediction.

"For most people, a high risk of dying in the next five years can be reduced by increased physical activity, smoking cessation and a healthy diet."

A disclaimer on the calculator states:

“However, in general, risk calculators can never predict the future for any specific individual in a deterministic sense, and should be interpreted on a population level. For example, if the risk of dying within five years is 2%, this means that out of 100 people of the same age, sex and risk profile, 98 will survive and 2 will die over the next 5 years. The result is in no way intended to be an accurate prediction of the relevant risk related to a specific person.

“THIS WEBSITE DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL SERVICES ADVICE.

“The information provided is not intended or implied to be a substitute for medical advice offered by a healthcare professional. If you desire or need such services or advice, regarding the information contained on this website or otherwise, you should consult a professional healthcare provider.”


Take the test here.

Gender Predictor: How To Tell Your Baby's Sex At The 12 Week Scan

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Sonography - predicting baby's gender


If you are pregnant or are thinking of getting pregnant and do NOT want to know the gender of your baby, you MUST NOT READ THIS ARTICLE.

Go away. Read something else. Go on. Go!.... I'm waiting.... Seriously. You can't read this.... Er... are you still there? No? Good. OK. Now, to the rest of you...

For centuries, people have been claiming they can predict the gender of your baby whilst you are still pregnant. Some say that you're having a boy if you're carrying all out front or low and a girl if you're carrying all around and high.

Or there's the old 'wedding ring over the belly' trick - if you tie your wedding ring onto a string and hold it over your belly, apparently the way it swings can tell the gender - if it moves in circles it's a boy, side to side it's a girl.

Other gender predictors include the state of your skin or your hair, your mood, whether or not you had morning sickness, the shape of your nose, the colour of your urine, the exact age you were when you conceived, even the position you were in when you got pregnant. Unfortunately, for anyone who has wanted to actually find out what sex their baby is, none of these old wives tales or gender predictors have any bearing in reality whatsoever. They may be fun to do, but they aren't going to give you any clear cut answers.Ultrasound scans finally made it possible to see whether you were having a girl or a boy. Until fairly recently, one would have to wait until the 20 week scan or later to see the genitals clearly. 20 weeks, of course, is a long time to wait if you really, really want to know.

Now though, research is being done into whether or not the gender of a fetus is obvious at the 12 week scan. At the moment, most sonographers will say that they cannot tell you the gender of your baby at your first scan. This is, perhaps, because they aren't aware of 'the nub theory'.

I had two 12 week scans with my current pregnancy - one on the NHS, one privately at the Fetal Medicine Centre - the sonographer on the NHS one told me categorically that the gender was undetectable, the sonographer at the FMC told me that she was 75VIRTUAL-BabynamesArticleModule-left accurate and at 13 weeks it's closer to

The nub theory is basically about 'the angle of the dangle'. Between 11 and 14 weeks' gestation both genders have a penis-like protuberance between the legs. They look incredibly similar at this point, except for the angle at which they are pointing. Sometimes there are males and females at this stage which are in the 'grey area', but essentially a boy's 'dangle' is 30 degrees up relative to the backbone and a girl's is below 30 degrees.

%VIRTUAL-BabynamesArticleModule-left% In order to be able to have any chance of predicting the gender, the foetus must not be curled up- they need to be lying as flat as possible. Also, it must be side on and apparently, it is better if the foetus is right side up.

OK, here are some examples. First, my soon to be born little boy at 12 weeks. I've put a red arrow in pointing to his 'nub', which as you can see is pointing 'up'. Some male foetus shots I've seen have been pointing almost straight up.

Nub theory: How to predict your baby's gender from the 12 week scan

Here is a shot of a girl. You can see her nub is pretty much horizontal. You can also see that her nub looks forked at the end. Some people think this means it is more likely that it is a girl, but a fork can be seen in both genders.



If you get your scan at 11 weeks, it can be difficult to tell the difference between the genders. A scan at 12 weeks is around 75% accurate and at 13 weeks it's closer to 95% accurate.

When you go in for your scan, ask your sonographer to get a shot exactly like one of the ones above- the foetus right side on, back flat not curled up and a good shot of the 'nub'.

There is loads of information online about the nub theory. This site has photographs showing the differences between the genitals and includes examples of ultrasound images.

If you've already had your scan and the nub is visible, but you can't work out if it's a boy or a girl, why not go to the In Gender Forum where you can post up your scan on the boards and get members to have a look and make their predictions. There are also threads on which members post up their scans AFTER the gender has been confirmed either at the 20 week scan or at birth.

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How to predict your baby's gender using a Chinese Conception Calendar.

The silent trimester: Why the first 12 weeks of pregnancy should not be shrouded in secrecy

On Female Charisma and Cultural Character Assassination

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While charisma is welcomed in men, even championed, it is only tolerated in women. I say this as a woman who has long felt the need to quell the full force of her personality so as not to offend others simply by being overtly vivacious, and who, as a child, was told I was charismatic by a teacher aiming, kindly, to elucidate me of my faults.

Always attracted by ripe female personalities - Ruby Wax, say, or Jo Brand, or even the rather more mumsy Victoria Wood, female charisma takes an inordinate amount of chaputz to pull off, and rarely goes hand in hand with what might delicately be described as 'conventional female attractiveness'. These rare conspicuous, comedic females are always the exception rather than the rule, the token gesture on a comedy show, as likely as not to say something controversial about periods as draw out a belly laugh. It is a shame. We women could do with laughing at ourselves a little more frequently, and learning, a little more, to appreciate the unique.

But charisma is something that requires a degree of power or privilege to carry off. In bosses, it is to be expected, and there is a tacit tension of social support that enables this acceptance, while in the mere worker, it might be seen as a foible, to be tolerated only should they also do the job well and perhaps make people laugh along with them.

You need to feel safe to be charismatic, as it involves stepping outside of social norms and drawing attention to oneself, something that is drummed into females from childhood as unacceptable. It creates, bland, featureless plastic dolls of women, as we extricate our personalities in favour of our looks, while in boys, eccentricities and foibles are accepted in toddlerhood as simply boyishness. It is ironic that they have their personalities enabled and cosseted by doting women, many of whom themselves were long since wiped clean as a computer disk, ready to have whatever society says is normal downloaded onto their DNA, to be considered normal, "good" mothers.

I would describe myself as a good mother, though "normal" might be pushing it. I am camp. I love a bit of theatre, and drawn to loud colours, which I like to dress myself in. I have an opinion and I'm not afraid to use it. But only amongst friends, and even this gets me into trouble sometimes. At work I am a much more muted, grey and blue version of what I would describe the 'real me', a limp wristed would-be drag queen full of double entendre and ruby red lips. And even here, I am enabled to be more fully myself than at previous places of employment, where I became drone-like in fitting into a workplace culture that would not accept personality from those lower down the ladder.

I tone down my looks too, lest they land me in strife. My hair, platinum as a child attracts too much attention, along with a decent set of knockers and a face full of makeup. So I soften it with ashy lowlights, wear crop tops, and go makeup free. It makes me look younger, which in itself lends itself to being patronised, but it's preferable from being ostracised for being considered a social threat or preyed upon for my body.

And I sense myself repeating the process of charisma deconstruction with my daughter. Unlike her brother, whose loopy oddities, and tangential randomness has long been diagnosed and accepted as just the way he is, I sense myself crafting my daughter with purpose to the standard model of femaleness. Oh yes, I tolerate her boyish desire to wear trousers and kick a football, but I find myself insisting much more carefully about how she should be, lest she be perceived as showing off, or drawing attention to herself with crazy talk or lying with her bum in the air. What I want for her is normality, for all I've fought to prevent myself the same fate. But is it so bad to wish it for one's daughter when allowing myself charisma is such a hard won privilege for myself? Perhaps: it has to be earned, and I have full confidence that she can negotiate her own personality on her own terms as and when she rightly rebels from my seemingly necessary gender based character assassination. In fact, perhaps, by digging my own heels in and therefore gently persuading her to kick back against my 'right-thinking' maternal concern for her social wellbeing, I'm passively ensuring she does.

Heart Age Calculator: Find Out Your Risk Of Heart Attack Or Stroke Using This Simple NHS Tool

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Worried about your heart health?

If you think there might be something amiss, then this rather marvellous NHS tool can help put your mind at ease, or give you the nudge you need to go and see your GP.

The tool, which is designed for people over the age of 30, can help determine if your heart age is lower or higher than your actual age and takes less than a minute to do.

So, what are you waiting for...?









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A Boy Born With No Ears Feels ' Weird But Great' After Having A Pair Created From His Own Ribs

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A boy born without any ears has had a new pair of lobes created from his own ribs.

Kieran Sorkin, 9, was born deaf and also had a rare condition which meant he did not have fully-formed ears - only small lobes where his ears should be.

But last August, experts at Great Ormond Street Hospital (GOSH) in London performed a six-hour operation where they used cartilage from his ribs to create a pair of ears and grafted them to his head.

Today, after his follow-up appointment and with fully-healed ears, Sorkin said: "Before the operations I thought I might get elephant ears or mouse ears, but I've got my mum's ears.

"It's weird but I feel great."

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The surgeon, Neil Bulstrode, used an outline of Kieran's mother, Louise Sorkin's, ears as a "family template'' to make his lobes as close as possible to the shape that he might otherwise have had.

At Kieran's follow-up appointment, his dreams also came true when his surgeon said the ears had healed sufficiently for Kieran to sport sunglasses just in time for summer.

The nine-year-old added: "Mr Bulstrode is the best surgeon as he made my wishes come true - I've got ears and can wear sunglasses."

While the procedure was primarily cosmetic, thanks to several previous operations and a hearing aid, Kieran has gradually been able to hear.

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Kieran was born with bilateral microtia - which affects just one in 100,000 babies - a congenital deformity where the external ear is underdeveloped.

He struggled at his first school because he looked different to the other children but his new ears have already given a "huge" boost to his confidence.

He had spoken of having ear surgery since the age of six after he saw a TV programme about it.

Nursery school teacher Mrs Sorkin, 39, said: "Kieran has been very brave throughout this journey and the results today are overwhelming.

"We know we all made the right decision with Kieran to go ahead with surgery, it's already made such a huge difference to his self-esteem and confidence."

During Kieran's first operation, medics harvested the rib cartilage from both sides of his chest and then carved and shaped it into frameworks for ears.

They then grafted the ears onto Kieran's head under pockets of skin and used a vacuum to shape the skin to the contours of the new ear.

During a follow-up operation in February his new ears were lifted away from the sides of his head and two further pieces of cartilage from his ribs were used like wedges to push the ears forwards into the correct position.

They were then covered with a skin graft taken from his scalp.

The GOSH consultant plastic and reconstructive surgeon, Bulstrode, said: "I'm very pleased with the shape and definition of the ears, but for me the most important thing is the way this has made Kieran feel and how pleased he and his family are."

GOSH performs more ear reconstructions than any other hospital in the UK, including between 35 and 40 total reconstructions each year, five of which are bilateral reconstructions (both sides) like Kieran's.

Christian Louboutin Sale: 30% Off For Three Days Only

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We've got that Friday feeling and it looks like Secretsales.com does too!

From today until Monday, the UK's leading flash sale website is playing host to a Christian Louboutin extravaganza with a purse-friendly 30% off some of the designer's most sought-after shoes.

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From red carpet worthy styles, to must-have (and more walkable) summer sandals, you're sure to find a pair of signature red soles to suit your wardrobe.

Louboutin's chic leather handbags are also featured in the sale but, as expected, are all selling out fast. Get in there quickly to avoid disappointment.

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Christian Louboutin So Kate 120 nude leather heels (£299, was £425), Christian Louboutin So Kate 100 cobalt high heels (£319, was £425)


Available from Secretsales.com

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How Floating Therapy Changed A Mum's Life For The Better

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Camille Pierson was an incredibly ambitious marketing director working in agencies throughout Surrey and London before she had her first child, Dali.

However when Dali was 11 months old, she became incredibly ill.

Pierson struggled to cope with balancing her demanding job and caring for her daughter. She found herself buckling under the pressure and was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

But after discovering the practice of flotation, Pierson drastically changed her life and set up her own business.

"My daughter was just very unlucky," Pierson told HuffPost UK Parents.

"She had cold after cold after cold, however she was not getting over any of them and then she’d get a new one.

"I remember getting a worried call from my husband saying he'd collected her from nursery. We decided to take her to A&E."

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Camille and her daughter, Dali



Dali's condition deteriorated fast. She was put on a life-support machine, and then transferred to St George's Hospital in London.

The 11-month-old was under 24-hour care. Her immune system wasn't working and she had a bacterial infection in her upper airway, croup and bronchilitis.

"Watching your child so fragile, with 11 canulers sticking out of her arms, legs, feet, nose, mouth whilst having a ventilator breathe for her - there are no words to describe how bad it was," said Pierson.

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Within a few days of treatment, Dali began to respond well. She was transferred back to a hospital in Brighton to continue her care and was released a few days later.

Unfortunately for Pierson, her demanding job meant her manager was on the phone instantly, asking when she was going back to work.

"This is where I completely fell apart," she explained. "I felt it was my fault she got sick in the first place.

"I’d let clients down, at home I felt like I had let my daughter down. PTSD is difficult - I had never experienced it before and I wasn’t expecting it."

Pierson said she spent that summer in tears, not being able to think straight. That was until her dad suggested she started floating - a practice where you lie in a pod of Epsom salt water.

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Initially skeptical, she accepted after her dad bought her the book of Floating by Michael Hutchinson.

The Flotation Tank Association has researched the benefits of this therapy. Scientists Thomas Fine and Roderick Borrie found that during a float, your mind becomes still, allowing you to focus on healing and resting. The spine lengthens an inch, chronic pain is relieved, and your muscles are allowed to fully recover.

They also found that about 40 minutes into your float, there is a change in your brain waves, your brain stops producing the "Alpha waves" it usually creates and starts churning out "Theta waves".

This is known as being in a "Theta state", which is associated with meditative techniques and provides "clarity of thought".

"After reading the book, I tried a few centres," Pierson said. "And after the third session I was completely hooked.

"For me, allowing my brain to stop blaming myself, allowing my body time to adjust and come to terms with what happened was incredible.

"My daughter was alive and very well, having me crying all the time was stupid as I was wasting our time."

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After several flotation sessions, Pierson said her real recovery began.

Dr Jessamy Hibberd, a chartered clinical psychologist talked to the Huffington Post UK about the benefits of floating for recovery.

"We're on the go all of the time. It can be hard to switch off. With any potential interruptions taken away from you, all there is to do is let your mind drift and slow down.

"There are far less opportunities for reflection in everyday life.

"Multitasking increases the production of the stress hormone cortisol and triggers the fight-or-flight hormone adrenaline, which can overstimulate your brain and make you feel on high alert."

According to Dr. Peter Suedfeld, a pioneering REST (Restricted Environmental Stimulation Therapy) researcher, flotation tanks have been very promising in tackling "problems involving the autonomic nervous system, such as insomnia, stress symptoms, dysfunctions of the skeleto-muscular system, chronic headache, and the like."

The practice helped Pierson tackle her own problems: "I soon realised my job was an issue, and not having an understanding employer was not an option. One thing I couldn’t get my head around was why there wasn’t there a float centre in Brighton.

"It had helped me. So I started to look to see if this was possible and whether I could open one. After years marketing leisure centres, spas and health clubs, I knew I could get the people in - but could I run one?"

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Pierson's dad is a successful businessman and helped her towards her goal.

"I gave up my job in October 2014 and we opened the doors at The Float Spa in February 2015," she said.

Comparing herself to a year ago, Pierson said she is a "completely different person".

"I am still moved by what happened, but my aim is to keep moving forward.

"I want to be a role model for my daughter - I want her to know that good things come out of bad situations.

"You need to take responsibility of yourself. If you put in hard work, if you put in time for yourself, then good things will happen.

"The fun part has been meeting all the customers. It’s truly amazing seeing how much floatation therapy impacts people for the better."

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And it's not just Pierson who has been helped by The Float Spa.

Helen Blick is a regular customer at The Float Spa in Brighton. She initially visited after being diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, a condition that affects the tissues supporting the skin, bones, blood vessels and other organs.

After discovering there was no cure, she realised she had to try to help herself: "I was pretty sceptical, but was willing to try anything at this stage.

"The first time I went I struggled to relax. As a mum of a three-year-old and a five-year-old, having one hour to myself to do nothing is very rare and I felt a bit anxious and guilty. Although I didn’t have any pain while I was floating."

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"The second time was completely different, I was able to relax as soon as I got in," she adds.

"I enjoyed the darkness and drifted in and out of sleep, and most importantly the pain relief lasted for the rest of the day.

"I have now been eight times. This to me is like a miracle, I didn't believe that something as simple as floating could help me this much. It is the most valuable self-help tool that I have discovered to date."

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Shelley Baker, 25, decided to try floating at the spa to relieve stress.

"It had been one of those frantic, busy weeks with lots of decisions to make and if I'm honest, before I went I was unsure I'd be able to switch my mind off," she said.

"I feared that I'd be lying in the dark in the water for the whole 60 minutes having to think about all the things I needed to do and sort out."

But Baker was pleasantly surprised.

"It was quite the opposite. I actually fell asleep twice, and emerged from the pod feeling like a heavy weight had lifted from my shoulders.

"I felt unusually peaceful but confident, knowing that I could take on pretty much anything the outside world would throw at me."

For more information on floating, visit TheFloatSpa.co.uk. Pierson also offers pilates, yoga and other types of therapy to complement flotation experiences for her customers.

As part of HuffPost’s What’s Working initiative, we’re profiling inspirational people and organisations who are making a positive contribution to society by finding solutions to the world’s problems.

Whether that’s making recycled yoga pants to combat the world's landfill problem, or creating a petition to ensure homeless women have access to sanitary products, we’re keen to share these stories. If you know of a someone who fits the bill, or would like to be featured, email us at ukwhatsworking@huffingtonpost.com.



Soojeong Son Tries Drive-By Street Harassment To See How Men React

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We're guessing any men watching this either commit drive-by harassment themselves, or didn't know it happened.

In a pretty hilarious social experiment, actor and comedian Soojeong Son took to the streets to see if guys loved getting creepy sexual things whispered to them as much as women do.

This is a funny video, but seriously? Do men actually do this to women? If you do, please stop. It's gross and unpleasant.

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1950s Fashion: Marilyn Monroe, James Dean And Teddy Boys

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1950s style included feminine and romantic silhouettes - full circle skirts, fitted pencil skirts and A-line shapes - that marked women's return to home and hearth after the war years. Fashion designers who dominated the scene in the 1950s included Dior, Balenciaga (credited with designing the popular chemise and sheath dresses of the period), Chanel (who created her signature slim suit in the 1950s) and Hubert de Givenchy, who designed the ladylike, polished clothes Audrey Hepburn would make famous.

It was also influenced by glamour girls like Marilyn Monroe, the wholesome styles of Doris Day and Sandra Dee, and the sexier pin-up influences of the likes of Bettie Page in her frilly, halter-necked bikinis.

The 1950s is also saw the emergence of the teen subculture. Influenced by rockabilly music and stars like Elvis, pompadour hair, oversized blazers, leather jackets and Hawaiian shirts were copied by men around the globe. Marlon Brando and James Dean also influenced men's fashion with their basic - and timeless - uniform of T-shirt and jeans.

In Britain, Teddy Boys had an instantly recognisable style inspired by dandy dressing; they wore Edwardian-style, tailor-made clothes paired with brothel creepers and chunky brogues.

By Brogan Driscoll & Jen Barton

When You Know It's Time To Unfriend Your Ex Boyfriend On Facebook

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It's over, you've broken-up, yet you're still friends with each other on Facebook. His mug popping up in your news feed alongside a bitchy status or photos of him moving on with his life? Yep, it's the norm. You don't want to come across as immature, you want to be grown up about it all, but guess what? It's definitely okay to 'unfriend' your ex on Facebook...

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"I hope we can still be friends," I said to my ex boyfriend as I left him standing alone at the train station after a long-winded but surprisingly dry-eyed breakup. And do you know what? I totally believed my own BS. In my eyes, there was no reason we couldn't remain pals. He had different ideas.

Within hours his profile had vanished from my Facebook 'friends' list and all that was left was an inbox message saying something like, "I hope you don't find me deleting you off Facebook childish." In all honesty, it was a bitter pill to swallow and although I wasn't the one who'd just been dumped I was pretty pissed off. But now, looking back, I'm pleased he did it.

I'd committed the ultimate social networking sin and declared myself "in a relationship" on my Facebook wall (note to all FB users, stay away from your relationship status until you're married) and had been stressing about how long I should leave it until I switched it to "single" after things ended.

Fortunately for me, by the time I got home from the aforementioned scene of the breakup he'd done all the legwork for me. Not only had I been unrelationshiped but, according to the internet, we weren't even friends anymore. Bummer, right? Wrong.

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Around breakup time I'd read an article on The Frisky, "5 Reasons Not To Defriend Your Ex" and was starting to come round to their quite frankly ridiculous five point plan - which included justifications like: you may want to keep in touch in the future, it won't make the memories go away, he needs to see what he's missing, you can keep tabs on him and you'll look immature if you delete him - before he hit unticked the 'friends' box.

As I said, in that moment I was pretty pissed off but just days later I was thanking my lucky stars that it wasn't I who'd had to bear the 'unfriend' finger. I wasn't responsible. No one could accuse me of being immature. Nor was I the stalker'ish ex girlfriend keeping tabs on him like article suggested. Phew!

But here's the thing. Even if he hadn't digitally ostracised me I would've had to do it to him at some point. And after this experience, I'm inclined to say the sooner you dump him on social media the better and here's why...

1. No one likes a stalker
Before the advent of social media, it took some serious dedication to spy on a former flame. Prising information from friends or hanging out at their favourite haunts was the only real way to get any info. And I'm guessing you wouldn't be caught dead doing such things, so why are you flicking through all his pictures and religiously checking his relationship status online? Stop it now. No one likes a psycho stalker ex and you certainly don't want to be one.

2. No one likes a stalker 0.2
Who's to say you'll be the one stalking. Your ex might be having a nose at your profile. And while it's all very good to show him what he's missing yada, yada, yada but all you're going to end up doing, according to author and relationship expert Natalie Lue, is feeling like you can't say and do what you want on Facebook and censoring yourself.

3. You'll start reading into things
You know that Alanis Morissette video he posted on his timeline? That wasn't aimed at you, but you totally thought it was. Okay, well maybe it was aimed at you a little, but hey, most of his updates aren't and you shouldn't have to bear the brunt of the ones that are. So don't. Delete him now.

4. A study says you should
If there's one thing you should live your life by, it's a gotta be some sort of poll, survey and/or study. So, on that note, Brunel University found that those who remained Facebook "friends" with an ex experience more distress and took longer to move on compared with those who immediately clicked "unfriend". See, it's science.

And one last thing to remember. There's no such thing as etiquette on the internet and Facebook doesn't care who dumped who IRL. On FB it's anyone's game. If he ditched you it's get your own back time and if you dumped him I'm guessing you didn't want him in your life anymore - so why would you want him on your timeline?

How NOT To Wear An Ear Cuff

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So the ear cuff is back, apparently, and while MyDaily's Ellen Stewart is still trying to shake off the memory of its last fashion outing (think Victoria Beckham, when she had the blonde hairdo and a penchant for push-up bras) everyone who's anyone has been attempting to rock one on the red carpet...



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They're all at it. I thought it was just a Met Ball thing, but no, the ear cuff didn't turn into a pumpkin when the lights came on at the punk-themed party and now celebs are wearing them like they're going out of fashion.



And it's not just the likes of Cara swear-to-God-I'm-A-Rebel Delevingne - the seemingly sensible, prim and proper have been cuffing up with squeaky clean stars Jessica Alba and Emma Watson donning a bit of extra bling upon their cartilage.



It's a trend that has infiltrated every sector of the fashion market with cuffs on offer in Claires Accessories for £3.50 to Repossi designs up for a cool £9,515 on Net-A-Porter. So, with a beyond extensive range of ear gear available to buy in the shops and online (see Asos' impressive selection for proof) should we be following suit and jazzing up our ears?



If you're thinking about taking the plunge and investing in the "must-have" accessory of the season perhaps you need to pause and remember the last time these things were in Vogue.



I'm not sure of the year exactly, but it was back when Victoria Beckham was still referred to as Posh. She had bleach blonde highlights and hung around with Dane Bowers. It was the worst of times - I'm pretty sure there was a fake lip ring involved.



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But now, now famous faces (or should that be ears?) like Nicole Richie and Sienna Miller are wearing them again and I feel confused. I kinda like them - they're decadent, they're edgy - but I can't quite shake those Posh Spice inferences.



Thanks to a cloud of negative ear cuff-related memories I thought it would be better to say what to avoid when ear cuffing, because we definitely know how it can go wrong. So here's NOT how to wear one...



First things first, you are not Cara Delevingne - sorry to burst your bubble but you're not - so don't go strapping on an over-elaborate cuff for all occasions. She can get away with it because she turns a lot and has a weird finger tattoo. Oh, didn't you know finger tattoos and ear cuffs come in pairs? If Karl Lagerfeld did a Noah and built an ark those are the kind of two-by-twos he'd instate.



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This isn't your all-day everyday accessory and would look totally dreadful teamed with the skirt suit you wear to the office. Why? Because those contrasting ideologies would literally fight with each other on your body. Plus everyone around you would feel incredibly uncomfortable with your awkward accessorising.



Ear cuffs are grungy, they're punky, they don't take shit from anyone. And d'you know what doesn't scream, "I'm so misunderstood, but I don't care"? Anything you have to iron.



On a similar note if you ARE or even slightly resemble Emma Watson you should never, I repeat, never wear these otherwise brilliantly rebellious accessories. Starring in a flick wherein you play a badass does not make you a badass IRL. Ear cuffs, a super-neat updo and a fresh face of barely-there makeup do not compute. It's like your trying to impress the bad girls at school but not really committing to the cause.



However, even if you are a bit of a dissident and already have a piercing halfway up your ear, do yourself a favour and don't rock a cuff as well.



Take it from someone who knows (yeah, I'm a massive rebel) I've got a bit of my ear cartilage pierced and I'd never ever, like ever, attempt to don a statement cuff in the same ear. Because sometimes less is more and too much is just too much.



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We've all seen people with multiple piercings all linked together with some sort of ornate chain (think Bollywood, think Beyonce's belly shackle), thought it looked good for about two seconds and then imagined the horror if said chain were to get stuck in say your jumper or... a car door.



Once you've mastered how not to wear a cuff what occasion should you almost definitely NOT wear said cuff to? Simple. A first date and/or job interview. Essentially anywhere that you need to make a good impression. An ear cuff is a pretty bold statement and I can't promise people won't judge you upon first sight if you decided to waltz around with a load of bling in your ear.



Yes, it may be a conversation starter. But think to yourself. Is that the kind of conversation you want to start? Plus you won't be able to get Out Of Your Mind by Dane Bowers and VB out of your, er, mind. It will become the soundtrack to your life. And nobody wants that. Take this as a warning. Handle an ear cuff with care. Unless, of course, you're a graphic designer who only pops up in pop ups in Hipstervilles. Naturally you're probably over this trend anyway...



Corner Sofas: 10 Of The Best

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Are you lucky enough to have a large living room, or are you looking for one versatile sofa as an alternative to the outdated three piece suite? Then a corner sofa or modular sofa could be perfect for you.

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We've chosen the chicest corner sofas to suit every style, from rustic to modern to minimalist with shapes to suit all room shapes and sizes.

MORE: Sofas for small living rooms

Whether you want a style with a chic chaise or modular units you can combine to create the perfect fit, shop our edit of the 10 best corner sofas, below...

Still stuck on which style will work best in your sitting room? Here are our top tips...

Got an unusual shaped room? You can still get a corner sofa to fit a space with tricky dimensions - try Ikea's modular Soderhamn range which is made up of a seat, arm rest and corner section which you can combine to create your dream combination. Modular sofas are also great for versatile living as you can always separate them out and move them around to create separate zones.

Keen to make a statement? Be brave and opt for a style in a bright colour or with a striking shape like Ergo's modern collection. Alternatively choose a muted shade in a sofa with a chaise which can sit against a wall, so you can make a real feature of it by backing it with colourful cushions.

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Short on storage? Some clever corner sofas come with hidden storage beneath the chaise or built into each modular unit. Try House by John Lewis' Flex range, which has masses of built-in storage for your clutter.



Tricks for Decorating a Small Space

How To Do Fifties Make-Up

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From Marilyn Monroe's bombshell appeal to Grace Kelly's icy-cool beauty (and perfect brows), the Fifties were a time of seriously gorgeous make-up looks, which continue to inspire.

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Desperate to unleash your inner Bettie Page? Fifties make-up is all about the eyeliner, eye lashes, brows and lips, explains London-based make-up artist Melissa Kassinen, who shows us how to recreate a pin-up ready Fifties make-up look.

Christmas Jumpers: 22 Affordable Styles

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How many days until Christmas? Oh loads yet, but it's never too early to get on the Christmas jumper bandwagon.

MORE: Primark Christmas jumpers

Owning a chintzy, OTT, light up jumper for the office party, all those festive lunches lined up with friends and - potentially - on the big day itself, is essential.



The Christmas jumper craze gets bigger and more blatant every year - we're talking 3D motifs, sparkly snowflakes, buttons, belts, glitter and unfathomable amounts of fluff.

MORE: Celebrities in Christmas jumpers

Updating last year's is a must, which is why we've picked 22 affordable styles for you to shop. Take a flick through this gallery and let the festivities begin!

If you're after something cheap and overly cheerful, Primark is your go-to destination. And don't leave it to the last minute - believe it or not, these beauties always sell out. The best buys? We're torn between the 3D Christmas patchwork jumper (£12) and the red 3D stocking one (£12) this year.

MORE: Festive films: Top 10 Christmas movies

Then there's New Look's Coca-Cola Christmas sweatshirt (£19.99) - it's perfect if you're a sucker for the whole 'Holidays are coming' thing. The Rudolf style from George at Asda (£10) is also super cute and Boohoo.com has a whole line of styles if you want something that nods ever so slightly towards stylish.

That said, the Christmas jumper is not about "fashion." It's about festive spirit, cheer, and concealing the Quality Street-filled tum you've got going on. Happy shopping!

What Are You Neglecting?

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The A-Z Challenge: N is for Neglect. Shift negative habits, alphabetically.

What are you neglecting that could propel you towards success? Towards being the best person you could be? Are you neglecting yourself, your health or the people who matter the most?

If you're not paying enough attention, or any attention, to what's truly important to you - that's self-sabotage. We know that negligence at work leads to mistakes, accidents and losses, but we often overlook ourselves. Neglecting our health and personal development, over time, affects our mental, emotional and physical well-being.

Why do we neglect? Often neglect is a result of taking things for granted. We don't mean to, but the more we get used to someone or something, the less grateful we become. Another reason for neglect is that in the whirlwind of life, where we get caught up in so many demands and seemingly urgent tasks, it's all too easy to lose focus of what's important and what really requires our attention.

Now neglect doesn't happen overnight. It usually starts with small things and gradually expands into several other areas. So make the time to look for the underlying issues that lead you to neglect, and then work out how you can make amends and fix all that's been overlooked.

Respect, not neglect. To do this, you may want to try holding a short gratitude session. This could be weekly or daily, when you wake up in the morning or as you drink your morning tea or coffee. Count your blessings and good fortune. Do this and you'll naturally develop respect for all that you have.

Nurture, not neglect. Because whatever you nurture, will thrive. Select one of the things that you've been neglecting and make it so attractive that putting it off is just crazy. Be careful not to approach it as another goal on your list, instead apply your heart, attention and focus to nurture it.

Here are two things you may have been neglecting, that you might want to start nurturing.

  1. Nurture your relationships. Strong relationships and close connections are essential to our happiness, wellbeing and resilience. So take an inventory of your personal and professional relationships. Take stock of what's going well and what's not. Determine how to nurture the relationships that need nurturing. Make the extra effort to stay in touch with the people who matter the most. Drop a line, send a note or meet up. Do something.


  2. Nurture your well-being. Your body, like a car, needs its own MOT. Invest in regular maintenance and take care of all the little problems, as an insurance against problems in the future. Visit the doctor, dentist and optician when you need to. Keep fit and eat well. Regularly treat yourself with something special and you'll have more to give. The benefits will spill over into all areas of your life. Give yourself a high priority and nurture yourself.

SJP Shoes: Sarah Jessica Parker Launches Bridal Collection

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Carrie Bradshaw's Sex and the City wardrobe has been lusted after for almost two decades and now, thanks to SJP herself, her style is actually buyable!

Sarah Jessica Parker's shoe line, SJP Collection, has just launched a new bridal range featuring a pump incredibly similar to those blue Manolos worn by Carrie in the first Sex and the City film when she finally married her Mr Big.

We know what we want our "something blue" to be...

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SJP 'Maddalena' Pointy Toe Pump


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Carrie marries Mr Big in the New York Library (post-jilting fiasco)


The actress-turned-designer announced the shoe collection back in October last year and this month starred on the cover of Martha Stewart Weddings to show off the new styles.

Unlike most bridal shoe ranges, satin and cream aren't the only options. The line features a range of hues, from pale green and plum to more traditional ivories.



View the full range here:



The SJP bridal collection is available now from bloomingdales.com, nordstrom.com, and zapposcouture.com, priced from £227 – £350.


SEE ALSO:

The Most Magical Wedding Dresses From Barcelona Bridal Week

17 Carrie Bradshaw Dresses We Want To See Again In Sex And The City 3

Michelle Keegan's Wedding Dress Designer And Beauty Regime Revealed

Pregnancy Fatigue: When Your Get Up And Go Has Got Up And Gone

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Pregnancy fatigue: When your get up and go has got up and gone!



Fatigue might be one of the first signs that you're expecting – it's certainly one of the most common early symptoms. Prepare yourself, because it's something you could have quite a battle with throughout your pregnancy.


What is it?

The term 'pregnancy fatigue' doesn't really seem to do justice to quite how physically exhausted you might feel when pregnant – particularly during the first and third trimesters, when it can hit you like a ton of bricks.

It's not a case of just feeling a bit tired – you might well feel completely and utterly on your knees. You might find yourself falling asleep in a heap at 7pm every night. You might find it incredibly difficult, even impossible, to do normal, everyday tasks. And all that can happen well before you have a bump.

This sort of lethargy is not something most of us are used to, but you're not imagining it – the reasons for pregnancy fatigue are physiological. Of course your body is being flooded with hormones, but let's also take a moment to consider exactly what your body is doing, from the moment you conceive. In the first trimester, you are growing not only a new human being, but also a new organ with which to sustain that tiny little life inside you.

Creating a placenta from scratch is no mean feat – that incredible piece of machinery does the job of many organs all in one go. It feeds your baby with nutrients and supplies oxygen; it takes waste products away from your baby, so your own body can dispose of them; it creates hormones, which your baby needs to develop and grow well; and it protects your baby from bacteria. Wowsers.

Imagine how long it would take, how many man hours, and how much energy, for scientists to create something that amazing in a lab. And you, your body, is doing it all by itself. It's no wonder it's struggling to climb the stairs at night!

Often, mums-to-be will come out of the very tired phase as they enter into their second trimester – and you should enjoy that opportunity to 'glow', because by the time you enter your third, tiredness can return with a vengeance.

By this point, the fatigue is being caused by the growing strain your growing baby is placing on your body. Your little one is, of course, much bigger now and taking energy from you every second of every day. Add to that increasing discomfort (and countless loo trips during the night), and you can see how the need-for-Zzzzzs / opportunities-for-Zzzzzs ratio becomes unbalanced.


What can I do?

Well that's obvious isn't it? When you feel tired, sleep!

Obvious, yes. Not exactly practical (or possible) though. Many women pregnant with their first baby have a job, and countless other things on their daily to-do lists.

And women pregnant with their second baby (or third, or fourth...) have at least one other child to look after! And maybe a job too! AND countless other things on their daily to-do lists!

Sorry if the !!! are making me sound somewhat hysterical, but I remember, I do. It is very hard to live a normal, busy life, when you feel there is not a shred of energy left in you, even five minutes after you've lifted your head of your pillow.

The good news (hopefully) is there are some things you can do to stave off, or ease the horrendous tiredness.


And relax...

The obvious one – still – is to rest, whenever you can. No, you can't just switch your life off, but think about what MUST be done today, or now, and what can wait. Give yourself a break. If, at 7pm, all you can think of doing is going to bed, then go. The laundry can fester, and no one's going to suffer harm if the washing up doesn't get done until the morning.

The next obvious one is to ask for some help – and particularly if you already have a child or children who need looking after. Perhaps it's always you that usually does all/most/many of the chores around the house – but pushing yourself too hard and allowing yourself to become horribly tired is no good for you, your unborn, or the rest of your family (grumps, anyone?).

Be honest about how you are feeling, say when you need to go and put your feet up and refer anyone who seems not to understand to the paragraph above discussing what your body is currently up to. Remember, even quite small children can (and should!) do their bit by, for example, putting their own shoes and toys away. And if they take a nap during the day, do the same yourself.

Many mums decide not to tell anyone but their nearest and dearest about their pregnancy until they've had their first scan – but an upside of telling your boss is that they can make allowances for you if you're struggling to stay alert all day. If they're in the know, they'll also understand if you turn down extra work, or feel the need to clock out on time every day. Be sure to take your breaks, find a quiet space and have a cat nap if you can.



Eat well and exercise...

Yup, if your bed is beckoning, you might be tempted to fall into it before even making yourself a sandwich – but do keep yourself topped up with nutritious meals and snacks, because they are what your body needs to complete its work.

So eat three quality meals a day, and snacks in between. Do avoid quick chocolate-biscuit-shaped pick-me-ups and find healthy alternatives, full of protein and complex carbs instead. Just remember, the food, as well as the sleep, is what will keep you from keeling over.

You need to make sure you drink enough fluids, too – water, fruit and vegetable juices, herbal teas – because your energy will sap quicker if you become dehydrated. It might be tempting to reach for the coffee jar when you need a quick energy boost, but remember that boost will only be short-lived and you do need to limit your caffeine intake to no more than 200mg, or a couple of mugs of instant a day.

Although moving might be the absolute last thing you feel like doing, gentle exercise (a stroll or a couple of lengths in the pool, not two hours in the gym) can really help with your overall energy levels.


Get comfortable...

In the latter stages of pregnancy (when your baby is pushing on parts of your body you were never previously aware of, when your back aches, your legs swell and you seemingly can't even take in a great big breath to refresh your body with oxygen), it can be very hard to sleep, even when you are shattered.

Again, take your rest wherever you can, but at night time especially, get as comfortable as possible by having a relaxing bath before bed, perhaps asking for a back rub and reading yourself to sleep (rather than watching a horror movie, for example!).

Some women find lying on their (left) side and placing a pillow under their bump can help with the pulling sensation caused by gravity pulling their belly downwards. You could try a pregnancy pillow and experiment to find the most comfortable way to use it, or just use a normal pillow (you might have to try a few different ones to find the perfect amount of plumpness!).


Should I see a doctor?

Fatigue is a very common and very normal part of pregnancy. Resting whenever possible, eating well, drinking enough water and taking gentle exercise are the best ways to alleviate it.

However, if you suddenly feel unusually tired at any stage of your pregnancy, and none of the above seems to help, you should mention it to your midwife or see your GP because you might be suffering from anaemia caused by iron deficiency. This can usually be solved with a course of iron tablets.

Sleep well!

Making The Change From Cot To Bed

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As any new parent knows, from the very first day your baby comes home with you, their sleep is of the utmost importance since it affects everything from their moods to your sleep.

As your child grows from baby to toddler, establishing a good sleep routine remains just as crucial and one of the big questions facing parents is how to make the transition from cot to 'big girl' or 'big boy' bed - without disrupting your little one's precious sleeping patterns.



According to research from Britain's bed specialist retailer Dreams, 66 per cent of UK parents move their children from a cot to a bed between the ages of two and three. While 40 per cent chose to move their kids into a toddler bed, 24 per cent opted to move them straight into an adult-sized bed and to skip the middle stage. According to a spokesperson from Dreams, while half found the move easy, the other 50 per cent felt that it was 'difficult,' 'time-consuming' and even 'impossible.'



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Sleep expert Mandy Gurney from the Millpond Children's Sleep Clinic, which specialises in babies' and childrens' sleep issues, explains that while there is no set age to move your young child into their own bed, by the age of three, most children are ready to make the change.

According to Gurney, there are cues to watch out for that could speed up the transition - especially if it becomes a safety issue with toddlers trying to escape their beds.

"More mobile toddlers, for example, may have already shown their readiness by climbing out of their cot," she says. "Other children, particularly those with older siblings, will have anticipated the change and begun to talk about having their own 'big bed.' And of course, if you feel your child is too big for their now-snug cot, you may choose to move them."



Lucy, mum of Eva, two, found that a family move spurred on her decision to move her little girl from cot to bed. "Moving house with our two-year old daughter encouraged us to make the transition from cot to toddler bed," she explains. "We chatted about her 'big girl's bed' in advance and involved her in setting it up and choosing fun farmyard bed linen, so that she was excited rather than upset by the change."



Gurney warns that some children will find the move from cot to bed more difficult than others; often this might be the case for first children who feel more attached to their cots (as opposed to subsequent children who are keen to follow their big brother or sister and move into the big bed).

She recommends preparing your child for the move by discussing it beforehand, giving a sense of occasion to the transition (putting pictures on the wall by the bed, choosing some new bed linen together) and maintaining the usual bedtime routine.




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"If your child is being moved out of her cot because you're expecting another baby, you can prepare her for the change," says Gurney. "Don't leave it until the last minute, take it down a few weeks before he is due and replace it with a bed in the same position, so that your older child is certain of what is happening, knows there is no going back and has time to adapt and identify with her own space."

Gurney advises discussing the change, mentioning friends who have transitioned to beds and showing pictures of big children in beds and small babies in cots to help explain. Talking through the new set-up is also helpful: Where will the new bed be? Where will you both sit for a bedtime story? What colour bedclothes will you pick out?

"Discussing this will help the child in the process of acclimatisation," Gurney adds. And if you haven't moved your older child into a bed before the birth of your new arrival, no worries - just leave it until after your child is used to their new sibling.



One thing to remember when you do decide to make the move is that putting your child to bed will no longer mean being able to snatch five minutes' of peace and quiet. "Some children love their new found freedom and you may find they suddenly appear by your side after you've said goodnight or are shaking you awake in the small hours," Gurney says.



Mum-of-two Karen, who has over 20 years' experience in the child care industry, found that since her son was in a bunk bed, her nine-month-old daughter was more interested in sleeping in the bottom bunk rather than her cot. "It was bye-bye cot, safety rail on the bed and gate on door. She never fell out of bed and she never escaped; however she did trash the bedroom every day."

The bonus of the safety gate barring the door means that your child will probably get up to less trouble in their child-proofed room than wandering through the house (and opening the fridge?) Or worse...



When it comes to investing in cot beds as opposed to going straight to adult beds, it's largely a matter of comfort and affordability, and comes down to what parents are looking for. Gurney recommends choosing the bed that's going to 'last the longest for that child and is the most comfortable one that the parents can afford.'

Even baby's first cot can be a somewhat economical purchase if you choose a cot bed option that can last up until a child is five (or even older). When choosing a bed, keep in mind that extras - sleigh bed styles, under-bed drawers - will add expense.



For some parents, having a child still sleeping in a cot is the one time they can feel like their child is safe, in an enclosed space and not going to get into too much trouble (until they're hurling themselves over the top, that is). As with all things parenting-related, the change in scene potentially means a lot of work for the parents - in the beginning, anyway. As mum Karen puts it: "There really isn't a right time to take your child out of a cot - it depends on how much chaos you're willing to cope with."

Pregnancy Headaches

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Headaches during pregnancy




For some lucky women who are prone to headaches or migraines anyway, pregnancy actually reduces the frequency of their attacks, but for many, headaches are a very common and unwelcome symptom, particularly in the first trimester.

Unfortunately, you can't reach for a bottle of strong painkillers, but there are other ways to ease the pain.

What are they?

Whether a dull, nagging ache, or a full-blown skull-splitter, we've all experienced a headache at one time or another. But during pregnancy, headaches can come very frequently and with a much fuller force than you might have experienced before.

The major reason for them is all that lovely progesterone coursing through your veins. The job of this pregnancy hormone is to relax your uterus and joints, to cope with pregnancy and in preparation for birth, but of course it also relaxes other parts of your body, including all your blood vessels. Consequently, it can feel like your blood is pounding round your head like an express train.

There are other reasons why you might get headaches when you are pregnant, including fatigue, hunger, dehydration and stress. They might also be down to a change in your blood pressure.

Caffeine certainly won't help (although actually, some women may experience headaches because they've cut it right back), and neither will smoking or drinking alcohol – but obviously, all these things should be being largely avoided anyway.

Some women find that pregnancy (again, particularly in the early stages) gives them nasal congestion, and blocked sinuses might be contributing to your headaches too. Alternatively, if you have found that being pregnant has altered your sight a little, you could be straining to read or look at your computer screen, which in turn could be causing pain.


What can I do?

As you may know by now, many medications are considered out of bounds for pregnant women because of the risks they may pose to the pregnancy or to the baby itself.

If you have a box of ibuprofen nestling in the medicine cabinet, which you'd usually reach for to ease a tension headache, you need to leave it be, because ibuprofen might increase the risk of miscarriage during the first trimester and it's thought it might increase the risk of premature labour during the third. Certainly, stronger painkillers should not be taken, unless under the advice of a GP. The good news is paracetamol is considered safe, and it can go a long way to easing a bad headache - even if it just takes the edge off. There are also other things you can try.

Try to take note of when you are getting headaches if they are coming frequently. Do they come between meals? If so, you might not be snacking enough - don't underestimate the amount of fuel your body needs during this time. Eat small amounts of food frequently - every hour if you have to, and you might notice the headaches don't get a chance to settle in.

Similarly, make sure you are drinking enough water. How much have you been peeing since you got pregnant? You need to keep your hydration levels topped up.

If you think it might be stress or tiredness causing your headaches, you really do need to try to take time out and rest. You can not function properly with a splitting headache, so even if you're at work, ask if you can take 10 minutes to sit somewhere quietly and close your eyes.

If sinus congestion is the cause, unfortunately it's not advisable to take over the counter decongestants. Instead, try relieving the bunged-up feeling by breathing in some steam infused with just a drop or two of eucalyptus oil.

A cool flannel, or even a wrapped up bag of frozen peas might help with a horrible headache without the need for painkiller. Admittedly, it's not very convenient for when you're in the office, but at home keep a flannel in the fridge to use when the need arises.

Some women find that they experience migraines for the first time when pregnant. Migraines are very intense headaches, sometimes accompanied by blurred vision and flashing lights. If you think you are suffering from migraines go and see your GP who will offer you advice. If you are already a migraine sufferer, and you are taking medication for your attacks, you should receive advice from your GP about whether you continue to take your medicine, or you need to switch to something more suitable.

In all hope, your pregnancy headaches might subside during the second trimester and, as with so many symptoms of pregnancy, they'll be gone for good shortly after your bundle of joy arrives.


What else could it be?

During the third trimester, if you start suffering from headaches which are accompanied by blurred vision, vomiting or nausea and/or a sudden swelling of your face, hands or feet, seek medical advice as soon as you can, because you might have developed pre-eclampsia which will need treating as swiftly as possible.
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